Wanting what we can't have, and having what we don't want..
This is another take to last post. I did read carefully to some of your comments and arguements on earlier post, from "this is normal way to feel from broken love in the past" to "you never love the same as you did before" and finally, "let the past go". Ok, but the weirdness of all of this is that......going back to old flame as I'm right now isn't doing the trick and she knows, things will for ever not be the same as before...no matter how hard she tries or others in between have tried...
SO, what now?
Right now, I'm in different mood on this way of thinking......I think its healthy for me......and be truthful about it. You can't really change how you feel and surely I can't have my lost love back..but still I'm wanting it to come back and I think this is just a human instinct.
posted by Dem Soldier @ 6:23 PM
7 Comments:
Time will fix this issue.
Exactly what rocketstar said. This too shall pass.
Ok... well I think I'm understanding a little bit more what you're saying... sometimes we go back to an old flame, an old love, and we try to rekindle the love, the passion, and the feeling that was there in the past, but the thing is, even if we somehow manage to do so, it is still different. You have changed, she has changed, and the circumstances around the both of you have changed. It will never be the same. Of course, it's a perfectly human feeling to want things the way they were. But unfortunately, I don't think it's at all possible any more than time traveling is possible.
As you know I really wanted to get back together with both of my ex's but now after Scott's death last June and realizing things will never be the same with Jason I have learned that moving on is hard but sometimes the only thing you can do. I spent the last four years or so look back now I am finally looking forward though I am nervous about it it is the best thing I have ever done for myself. I think to build a new life a better life you have to let go and try new things. Like I said it has took my over 4 years to let go so take your time and be sure of what you really want.
"You can't really change how you feel"
Really? How come you take a shit when your body tells you to, then.:) Your attitude dictates the way you feel. Right now you sound like you're waiting for "the perfect 10 to drop in your lap as you sleep." Ain't gonna happen man...just ain't. Now when you're done feeling sorry for yourself, get out there and make it happen! How come I'm so hard on you?
Because I did exactly the same damn thing when I was your age.:) It worked no better for me, either!:)
Well, if things will never go back to the way it was before, then technically you're only in a relationship with someone familiar. Therefore, it's considered a new relationship, right?
Rocket & Mary...time always decides...:)
Nova...Yes, I think you understood very well where I'm coming from on this...I will take time with this for show...
The Future...I love you man, man love kinda...You really sound like my dad.....:) U have a point on moving...I surely have to make that very soon..'cause the old love I shared with her ain't coming back even though its the same person....
Secret...that's what I'm saying..how can U not feel the same, when the same person comes back to your life? I don't get either..but the elders above you have spoken..time will tell the tale they said..so dem chill...I gotta chill..:)
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